Parenting a sense of self worth
I’m tired. It has been a long day, which got even longer when my daughter and son began arguing over who was special. My son thinks teasing his younger sister is great and loves when she cries. But her own sense of value seems to be based on how he treats her.
I was reminded of my own past when my own sisters use to tease me until I was in tears. Is that in part where my own insecurities of value began to be shaped?
I prayed with my daughter. I told her how much God loves and cares for her and how our value is not based on others, but on what God says. I don’t know if she got it. But I tried. I’m trying to learn this myself too. Sometimes I wonder if I even got it.
Then I spoke with my son. I talked at length about sowing and reaping. I think he got it. He prayed and asked God to help him sow so that he would reap good things and not bad things. He appeared repentant and wishing to change. He thought initially it might help if I distracted him every time, from teasing his sister, but I told him I was incapable of doing that. Any change must start from his heart and Jesus is the only one who is right there with him all the time.
He especially didn’t like the idea that his sister might be sowing good things, while he is sowing bad things. He has so much rivalry with her that she simply cannot compete with. It leaves me spinning.
I don’t know. It is so hard at times to know what to say that the children need to hear. I can only hope and pray that I get it right part of the time at least.